Before you can pole at home, you obviously need a pole! There are many pole choices (and a lot of "fake" poles), but you MUST have a professional grade pole. It must be sturdy and able to withstand all of the spins and tricks you will be doing.
This is what I use at home and recommend to all of my clients.
The XPERT Pro has the most advanced spinning & static mechanism in the world, X-LOCK. X-LOCK allows you to switch from static to spinning and back with just a flick of the wrist, no tools needed.
$349.99 (plus $50 FedEx shipping)